5 Things Parents Want Teachers to Know, But May Be Hesitant to Tell Them
As a parent and a teacher, I feel especially blessed to have a clear perspective on the importance of this relationship forged at the beginning of each school year. Both parent and teacher are truly passionate about that one common link that binds them together – the child.
Today, I am sharing 5 things parents want teachers to know. In next week’s post, I will follow up with 5 things teachers want parents to know. If you happen to be a parent, teacher, or both, I pray the thoughts expressed here resonate with you. I believe how we embark on this adventure each August sets the tone for the year, for us and for our children.
1. I willingly place my most precious possession into your care each day. Please don’t take it lightly. Have you seen the news lately? It’s enough to rattle even the bravest parent right to the core. Every day I drop her off at the front of the school, watch her walk in, and say a silent, urgent prayer for protection. As hard as I try to think positive thoughts, sometimes my mind wonders what terrible things could happen today while we’re apart. I think of myself as the mamma lioness going out to gather food for the day, intent on bringing back a good meal this evening. Will you stand guard over the cubs, taking care of them in my absence as you would your own? We are all part of the same pride, and I would do the same for you.
2. You will spend more time with him today than I will. By the time I get home from work today, I will have about 3 hours to spend with him before bedtime. As much as I hate to admit it, you will have more influence on him as an adult role model than I will. This makes me feel empty and sometimes helpless, but I accept it. Our weekends are precious to us! That’s our family time, and we live it to the fullest. If you give homework on the weekends, it may not get completed. Sorry in advance.
3. Your relationship with her will help shape who she is 20 years from now. Make it count. Think back to your time as a student. Which teachers do you remember fondly, and which not so much? As a parent, I can do ten positive things for my child and make one negative comment. But guess which thing she will remember? I honestly don’t know why. Maybe it’s that innocent vulnerability or impressionable faith in adults. Whatever the reason, please keep this at the forefront of your mind when communicating with her. She trusts you. And if you make a mistake, because we all do, for heaven’s sake, apologize! Kids don’t hold grudges.
4. He is not like the others, and that’s a good thing. His quirkiness will catch you off guard some days. In fact, it might be downright aggravating, especially if it interrupts your lesson. But try to see how his behaviors will translate into adulthood. I mean, who wants to be a grown-up who fits into a mold, anyway? His uniqueness sets him apart and makes him remarkable. Can you find ways to use those moments as learning opportunities for him and the other students? It is then you will see the best of him and what he can do. Thank you for being flexible.
5. See her. Some days she feels unnoticed, under-appreciated, unloved. Some days she wants to act out because she thinks the misbehaving kids get more attention. Though this breaks my heart, it’s a part of life and growing up. She deserves to be acknowledged. All kids do, and I understand how hard that will be for you this year. The sheer number of youngsters you see in a given day would make my head spin! But I know you’ll find a way. God will give you the strength to do it. After all, making kids feel special is every teacher’s super-power. Yes, that’s probably the most important of all – see her. Though she may never say it in words, she'll thank you for it.
Have a great year. I'll be praying for you.