Letting Comparison Cause Me to Doubt My Worth

My life hasn’t always been about good choices, all tied up into a neat little bow. For a time, good decisions seemed to fade into the background, pushed out by a more prominent desire to find myself in a world where that was the cool thing to do.

I found my worth through the world’s view.

Letting comparison cause me to doubt my worth.

Good choices came and went, but they were never quite able to pull me away from my all-about-me attitude. Then one day, someone invited me to church. That’s where I met Jesus.

I learned about how Jesus gave himself as a sacrifice so that I could have the chance to live with Him in heaven one day. And not only that, but also the abundant life God freely gives to those who know Him. That day, I made the best choice of all. I accepted Him.

Discovering the Source of Our Worth


You’d think such a stellar decision would set me on an easy path toward change. But I soon found that change could only come through hard places.

As much as I tried, I couldn’t get past the unworthiness I felt deep in my heart. Considering the way I’d lived, how could I truly be forgiven? What about my past mistakes?

I began to look at other faith-filled women with awe. Women who served our Savior with grace and poise. How beautiful they were! They all certainly deserved a place at the Master’s table. But me? Not so much. Instead of looking to them as mentors and choosing to learn from their example, I started to compare.

I measured my first days as a new Christian against their years of serving the Lord, and I didn’t measure up.

This struggle with comparison caused me to question my value. Yet God used it for my ultimate good by sending me on a remarkable journey to discover who He created me to be.

To find my true worth in my relationship with Jesus.

I didn’t realize how many times the voice of comparison had whispered into my life in that sneaky way it has. But as I learned to recognize its ways and stay alert to its dangers, a miracle happened. I began to uncover what God’s Word says about comparison and how I could conquer it once and for all.

What the Bible Says About Our Worth


“If you are content to simply be yourself, you will become more than yourself” (Luke 14:11 MSG).

This verse initiated a turning point in my life. I discovered even more deep truths in God’s Word about who he says we are, and how he feels about us. Through this key verse and others, God uncovered my own battle with comparison and how it led to feeling unworthy of his love.

And He will do the same for you, too.

Is It Possible to Conquer Comparison?

Conquering comparison is an ongoing challenge, but with Jesus the answer is yes, it is possible. Because I believe with all my heart that God’s love for us in infinite. He helps us let go of the not-so-wise choices of the past and embrace who we are in Christ today.

Oh, I haven’t arrived just yet. None of us have. But with encouragement and hope from God’s powerful Word, I am well on my way to being able to say, “I’m worthy,” and meaning it.

Have you ever wondered if it’s possible to silence the voice of comparison in your own life? It is, my friend, but I’m not going to sugar-coat the truth for you. It takes a commitment to more of God and His Word. The journey toward change may not be all pretty and perfect, but it will definitely be worth it.

Let’s make a choice today. Let’s dare not to compare, and find the truth about our worth. “We are God’s masterpiece, created in Christ Jesus to do the good works he planned for us long ago.” Ephesians 2:10

Interested in learning more about overcoming comparison from the stories of three women in the Bible? You can find out more in my book Over It. Stop by and visit the book page here.

Devotional for Teen Girls Updated and Available Now

“67% of all teens surveyed say they use TikTok, with 16% admitting they use it “almost constantly.” (Pew Research)

“For many teen girls, social media platforms have significant effects on their mental and emotional health.” (Counseling at Northwestern blog)

“…there was a distinct drop in girls’ self-esteem and sense of self between the ages of 11 and 14. At 11, 15% said they felt unhappy about their appearance. However, by the time they were 14, 29% said they weren’t happy.” (Forbes)

I can’t imagine what it’s like to be born into the age of social media like our girls are today. There’s so much happening in our world that only escalates the evil foe of comparison. It’s something many women face, but teen girls have added pressure because of things like online personas, gender identity, mean girls, and more.

It can be frustrating and disheartening to see teens unhappy with the person God created. And after spending 15 years in education with 13-14-year-old girls, I can tell you there is no easy answer. One thing we can ALL do is equip our girls with tools to fight the comparison monster in their lives and discover more about their true selves.

The Over It Devotional for Teen Girls has been out of print for a while, but today I’m thrilled to announce it is available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble once again with updated content!

It’s the same 4-week devotional as before, only without any old links or outdated material. I’ve also added a few suggestions to get the most out of the weekly reading.

So to celebrate the re-release, I’m offering downloadable, full size copies of the coloring pages that are found in the book. They are on a special sale on the store page now!

If you’re familiar with the devo, you know there is a coloring page, doodle page, and journaling page at the end of each week. For a short time, I’m providing extra coloring pages as a set. You can use them yourself or print as many copies as you need for a group.

The book is available at Barnes & Noble here:

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Grab a copy for yourself, too, and read alongside your daughter, granddaughter, niece, or whoever God has placed on your heart for this time. It’s designed for girls ages 12 to 16.

May you and your girl be blessed beyond measure as she learns to treasure the amazing young woman God created and kick comparison to the curb for good.

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