How to Handle Change Like a Champ

I dislike change. Plain and simple.

Some people are better at handling change than others. My husband, for example, thrives through change. He approaches new situations with a positive attitude and looks at every opportunity as a welcome challenge.

I curl into a ball and hide under the covers.

Change drives me into list-making mode. I weigh out the pros and cons of important decisions, trying to make the best choice for everyone involved. I agonize over it. I lose sleep because of it. Yes, I take the situation to God in prayer. But I don’t often trust Him with the results.

Fortunately, God’s Word gives us great guidance when we face change in our lives. So whether I’m a person who runs head-on into change or tucks my tail and runs the other way, I can learn from Scripture how to handle change like a champ. Here are three things to remember when we face change.

 

1.      STAY POSITIVE.

“So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you” (Deuteronomy 31:6 NLT).

When entering a new situation, it’s so easy to look back at how good things were before. I’ve been guilty of this in the past when job transfers took our family to new places. Dwelling on the things we left behind clouded my view of what wonderful things waited for us in our new home. Once I learned to keep my eyes forward, my attitude toward the changes shifted from negative to positive.

2.      STAY FIRM.

“We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure. It enters the inner sanctuary behind the curtain, where our forerunner, Jesus, has entered on our behalf” (Hebrews 6:19-20a NIV). 

For me, the hardest part about change is the follow-through. Once I make the decision to forge ahead, I need to trust God with whatever happens. So often we second-guess our decision when things don’t work out as we thought they would. We wonder if this change was ever God’s will. But staying firm through the change will bring stability – which our families will definitely need during those uncertain times.

3.      STAY FOCUSED.

“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows” (James 1:17 NIV).

Even though change in life will come, God never changes. He is the same “yesterday, today, and forever.” He is the One who remains constant through this unpredictable life. So as we learn to handle the changes that will come, let’s remember to hold onto our unchanging God.

Even though I may not like change, I can face it with steadfast courage today. And who knows?  I just might choose to crawl out from under those covers once and for all. Let’s make a choice right now to remember the promises above when it’s time to change.

The Moment My Perspective on Ministry Changed Forever

I drove up the gravel road into a neighborhood I hadn’t seen. I didn’t even know it existed. I saw him in the distance - the preteen who asked about my church. We'd had conversations before, but his eager words that day drew me in. When he told me he wanted a ride to church, I couldn’t say no.

My heart wouldn’t let me.

He waved when I pulled up, then ran down the row of single-wide trailers to yell good-bye to his dad. And about that time, a barefooted boy on a bike pedaled up to my window and asked if he could come too. His light brown face was smeared with dirt.

“Can you go ask my mom?” His excitement took me by surprise.

Of course I will.

So outside of my comfortable box I went, up the crooked porch steps to the woman who waited just behind the screen door.

She'll think I'm crazy, I thought.

But when the door opened, I introduced myself. She nodded a sleepy yes and sent him off with one simple statement, “Be a good boy.”

That was the moment that forever changed my perspective on ministry.

With that one affirming nod from a stranger, I found instant connection. Our adventures began. One boy became two, and two became three. I marched up to more doors – this time without hesitation.

Because after the first courageous step, every one that followed became easier.

Before I knew it, I learned to live outside my comfortable box – because that’s where God wanted me. More friends joined the adventure. Our cars filled, we often wondered why God didn’t just give us a bus!

But then, you can’t drive a bus through Dairy Queen for an ice cream now, can you?

Of course, I’d like to say my mind never filled with what-ifs, but it did. The world would tell me everything that could go wrong. It would tell me to proceed with caution. It would have me question…

I don’t even know their parents. Shouldn’t I get a liability waiver? He might have a food allergy. What if he has a reaction to this ice cream cone?

I’m not saying we shouldn’t be responsible. Yes, we should. But I also know when God says go ahead, I need to just go. And can I share something?

That one moment of obedience took me to a new level of courage in ministry.

In relationships.

In life.

Because from that day forward, I understood what Jesus meant when he said, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (John 13:34-35).

My friend Suzie Eller puts it so well in her book, Come With Me. She writes, “Faith begs us to climb out of the familiar.”

Yes. It does.

The adventure I described above happened a long time ago. Seasons change, and we move from one assignment to the next. I have a new assignment now, and it’s just as amazing as each one before. And every precious connection has taught me more about myself, and even more about my Savior.

God reassured me in a dream recently of His perfect will for every one of His children – every one of us. He brought back the memory of that moment that changed my perspective on ministry forever.

In the dream a much taller light brown-skinned man stood in a church facing the stage. I stood far behind him. He turned around and smiled at me, his face somehow familiar.

So the next time God challenges us to take that one uncomfortable step, will we say yes? Will we push apprehension aside and go where He leads?

Let’s answer His call, leaving doubt in the dust. Let’s take that one step that will begin a lifetime of courageous faith. His plans for us are more amazing than we can fathom.

 

Would you like to learn more about saying yes when Jesus says, “Come with me?” I recently read a life-changing book by Suzie Eller. Suzie walks through each disciple’s encounter with Jesus and encourages readers to claim our identity as the 13th disciple. I’ve included links to purchase below.

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