Another day at home with my 4-year-old, and I decided it would be a good idea to clean the carpets. I’d put our overgrown labradoodle puppy in the yard while my toddler played in his room. This wasn’t one of those quick vacuum jobs. Our tan carpet displayed remnants of a variety of spills and stains. You know, the ones that had been scrubbed by hand, but never quite disappeared?

This job called for the heavy machinery, so I broke out the rug steam cleaner.

Two hours of heavy labor passed and my little angel entertained himself the whole time. The tan carpet looked like new. Just as I finished, Garrett ran to the back door to let Teddy the labradoodle back into the house. After it had rained, and he’d been digging in the mud.

I exploded.

This wasn’t just a small explosion either. I screamed at him. I yelled at my preschooler who was only trying to help. Tears come to my eyes now as I recall the memory. Oh how I wish I could have a do-over of that day.

What I didn’t realize at the time was that as a stay-at-home mom, certain things triggered my harsh reactions. It didn’t have anything to do with Garrett’s behavior at all. Sleep deprivation, a messy house, and limited time to recharge often set my nerves on edge.

I struggled as I walked through that time of motherhood. Eventually, through intentional prayer and time spent with other moms I was able to identify potential angry outbursts before they left my mouth. I learned that I wasn’t alone. I also discovered certain habits that helped me along the way and found encouragement from friends and family.

Recently I learned of a new resource for moms of little children, written by two women who understand my story. These ladies want to equip moms to say ‘no’ to anger and replace their reactions with gentle biblical responses.

Triggers: Exchanging Parent’s Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses examines common parenting issues that cause us to explode inappropriately at our children. Moving beyond simple parenting tips on how to change a child’s behavior, Amber Lia and Wendy Speake offer biblical insight and practical tools to equip and encourage moms on the journey.

I just had to share this resource here, because I’ve been there.

Maybe you’ve been there too.

I share this with you today because I believe in the message, and I believe in the hearts of the women who wrote the book. If you know a young mom who could use a little encouragement today, feel free to share this post with her. I want her to know she’s not alone, and there is hope.

Today, the Triggers book is available for purchase. Click the picture below to take you there.

Please welcome writer Ellen Chauvin to the blog today!

Ellen pens her stories from the Bayou Country of South Louisiana, but her heart and birthplace are in Mississippi. She’s a Southern Belle through and through. When not writing, you can find Ellen digging in the flower beds, relaxing on her back porch, or traveling with hubby John. She is passionate about scripture and shares the truth of God’s word at www.ellenchauvin.com. It is there that she encourages ordinary women to walk in extraordinary faith.

Memorizing scripture is like a preparing a good juicy steak.

Yep, that was my thought a few days ago. I had purposed in my heart to memorize scripture this year. AGAIN. I’ve tried and given up a hundred times. I couldn’t for the life of me understand why it was so hard hard for me! Other than the fact that I’m, well, not getting any younger. And you know, at this season in my life, if I can remember anything, it’s miracle.

As I was pondering memorizing God’s word, I realized I had been approaching it all wrong. I had arbitrarily chosen a verse, and tried to remember it. I wrote it down several times over the course of a few days, then moved on to another one. That just wasn’t working for me. One day, a friend on Facebook posted about her life changing scripture memory experience. She was using the Beth Moore Siesta Scripture Memory plan, which is one verse every two weeks. Hallelujah! I think I can do that!

Choose a Method

I bought a set of spiral index cards (recommended by Beth Moore). It’s small enough to fit easily in my purse. I prop it on my desk at work. It literally keeps me going during the day. I glance at the cards often, close my eyes and recite the verse. Sometimes I will write it down several times. Making progress! Another suggestion was to begin with a verse that is meaningful to you. By starting with a scripture near and dear to your heart in this season - but one you haven’t memorized - you’ll feel like a rock star at the end of the first two weeks, because you know it up down and sideways!

Begin with a verse that is meaningful to you.

Next, I chose an arbitrary verse that I didn’t really know. Hmmm, getting a little harder! I realized if it isn’t a scripture that has personal meaning for me, I had to get to know it. I needed to marinate in it like a good steak, soaking in the seasoning. (Did you think I had forgotten about the steak analogy?) I needed to spend time with this verse.

How can you get to know a scripture? Read it in several different translations. Chose key words and look at their meaning in the original Hebrew or Greek. Check out the cross references. Do a little scripture mapping.

Ask questions. Psalm 61:2 says “From the end of the earth I call to You when my hear t is faint; lead me to the rock that is higher than I.” Where do I have to be when I call to Him? Anywhere, from the end of the earth. When do I call” When my heart is faint, and I’m feeling alone, afraid or abandoned. Who do I cry out to? God, my Rock and my Refuge.

Marinate in the verse.

Just like that wonderful juicy steak I devour, I also need to ingest the scripture.

Ezekiel 3:3 Then he said to me, “Son of man, eat this scroll I am giving you and fill your stomach with it.” So I ate it, and it tasted as sweet as honey in my mouth. NIV

What happens when we eat good food? It provides nutrients and keeps us healthy. Food fuels our energy and keeps us going all day. When we add God’s word to our daily diet, it provides nutrients for spiritual growth. I don’t know about you, but it keeps me going all day long.

But you know what? Don’t get comfortable there. Dig into scriptures that challenge you (and possibly give you indigestion).

Perhaps you’ve eaten food that didn’t agree with you. Same with God’s word. Sometimes we find His revealed will in scripture hard to digest. How about that scripture that tells us to pray for our enemy? Oooh, heartburn. What about the one that says pray for those in authority. Anybody need some Tums?

Choose a scripture that challenges you.

One of the verses I memorized was 1 Corinthians 13:5

Love…”does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered”

As I memorized, chewed on, scripture mapped and got to know the verse, it began to make me uncomfortable. Because you see, I was failing at all things “love” each day at work. What an eye opener. By marinating in the verse, I realized I was blatantly ignoring what it said to do. I was rude, selfish and irritable.

Give yourself grace.

If you are having trouble persevering in your quest to memorize God’s word, please don’t give up! You can do it, and there are so many online resources to help you. My friend Jana over at Sweet to the Soul has a beautiful Scripture Memory Journal and Verse Mapping Pages.

Don’t give up!

The Holy Spirit will bring to mind the scriptures for you. But we have to do our part: we have to put the words in our minds!