Hope for the Mom Who Lost It with Her Kids

The off-white carpet reeked of spoiled milk and dog hair. Apple juice spills seemed to surface out of nowhere and never go away. Why would we buy a house with off-white carpet anyway? I chastised myself. 

Now sitting here with my four-year-old boy and black labradoodle, this stay-at-home mom realized lighting another candle wouldn’t help. It came down to this. Either buy one more area rug to cover up the latest stain, or break down and clean the carpet. Knowing an area rug would only provide temporary relief, I surrendered and wagged out the heavy carpet shampooer.


Keeping the boy busy playing in his room and the dog outside gave me the space needed to turn this shabby living area back into a showplace. My excitement grew just thinking about it! Look at me. Super mom. It only took an hour, and just as I finished the final pass of hot steam revealing renewed flooring in all its glory, the unthinkable happened.


Hearing a scratch at the back door, my little helper darted from his room. Before I could stop him he opened the door, allowing a 70 pound crusher of dreams to bound through the living room.


Did I mention it was raining?


His muddy paws left trails every which way as I raced to catch him. My efforts were unsuccessful. By the time he settled down, I felt an anger bubble inside me unlike anything I’d ever felt. 


And I screamed.


Not just any normal I’m-a-little-upset-at-you scream. This was the kind that forms deep in the gut and burns your throat as it comes out. The kind that makes you stop and look around to see who else is in the room. Because that couldn’t have been you.


“GO TO YOUR ROOOOOOOM!” I aimed my anger at my child who was just trying to help. And he obeyed. 


Oh how I wish I could have that day back. Because in the quiet of the aftermath, I realized I just needed a moment in God’s presence to bring my perspective back to where it needed to be.


“Better is one day in your courts than a thousand elsewhere; I would rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God than dwell in the tents of the wicked.” Psalm 84:10


The psalmist who wrote today’s verse knew the wonders of spending just a minute in the presence of the Lord. He compares one day with God to a thousand away from Him. This message speaks volumes to my guilty heart in a fresh new way today. 


Life is filled with mistakes we wish we could take back. But God’s Word ushers in peace and grace right when we need it. One day - one minute - one moment at a time. 


If one day with God will provide relief to last a thousand, how much will a single moment in his presence provide the peace we need to get through today’s challenges? So when life seems out of control and we struggle to hold it together, let’s remember this.


One minute in God’s presence will revive my withered perspective.

In the brief moment following the infamous scream incident, I reached out to God, and He met me there. His presence turned the whole atmosphere of our home into something new. Something a steam cleaner could never do. He renewed my withered perspective, and the rest of our day was filled with playing, hugging, loving, and living in His blessings.

What sweet, sweet restoration it was.


I still sometimes wish I could relive that day. Do it over with a changed vision and attitude. But I tell you this story today to offer hope. 


I pray in these turbulent days you are able to find just one moment to be in His presence. Whether you’re at home attempting to keep the kids busy, an essential worker in need of rest, or an empty-nester longing for connection. One moment in His loving care is far better than a thousand anywhere else. One moment to embrace the grace to see us through.


Blessings,

Kristine

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One Verse for When I’m About to Overreact

The other night I had a dream. In the dream, one of my adult kids came to me with news I absolutely did not want to hear. I could feel myself about to overreact.

In the dream, steam shot from my ears as my head felt like it would explode! I screamed in the loudest voice I could muster. It was like an over-the-top, out-of-control overreaction.


I remember waking up thinking what a funny dream it was. Too much chips and salsa, most likely. Then God began searching my heart in that gentle way He has, bringing back to mind memories of times past when I’d overreacted to something my kids needed to tell me.

I’ve shared with you before about my struggle with letting go of frustration. I also shared how I thought I’d conquered it when I learned to control my mouth. But I discovered keeping frustration inside doesn’t deal with the problem. It only gives it a place to grow.


A Verse for Those of Us Prone to Overreacting


I don’t want my loved ones to be afraid to tell me something because they don’t know how I will react. I want to be the person they can trust. The one they can come to in times of trouble - a safe place.

So how do I get rid of my constant overreacting? How do I become the person my family knows they can come to with their problems?


I will find peace from overreacting when I stop giving frustration a safe harbor in my heart.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23 NIV


This one verse from Proverbs reminds us that we have the power to control what we allow in our hearts.

We often tuck our frustrated feelings away for safekeeping. And when we do, those feelings grow stronger. The problem is, whatever I stuff into my heart will eventually flow out of it. All that yuck spews out on the people closest to us, but it doesn’t have to be that way.



We can learn to guard our hearts, like in today’s verse. We can fill our hearts with good things and force frustration to find another harbor. The safe place we create can be reserved for our people. Our families and friends. When they perceive us as a safe place, they will feel free to come to us with their deepest hurts, biggest dreams, and everything in between. 


If you’ve struggled with overreacting, I’m right there with you. Maybe you’ve prayed in the past for victory over lashing out, but haven’t felt freedom from your compulsion to overreact. Friend, let’s start again. I believe in us!

With God’s help, we can find that freedom we long for and become the parents, wives, and friends God created us to be.





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